By Mike Parks, RADM, U.S. Coast Guard (Ret.), Chief Executive Officer American Red Cross Northern Ohio Region

Memorial Day is the time of year when we prepare to honor those service members who paid the ultimate sacrifice in defense of our great nation.  We take time to pay homage to those men and women, who gave their lives while serving in the Armed Forces of the United States. 

It should also be a time when we pay tribute to those Gold Star families who have endured pain and sacrifice due to the loss of their family member.  A Gold Star Family is the immediate family of a U.S. military service member who died in the line of duty.  Those who die in service to their country leave behind parents, siblings, spouses, children, and extended families. These are recognized as Gold Star Families. The title is meant to honor the service member’s ultimate sacrifice while acknowledging their family’s loss, grief, and continued healing.

The tradition dates to World War I when flags/banners were first flown by families. The flag included a blue star for every immediate family member serving in the Armed Forces of the United States, during any period of war or hostilities in which the Armed Forces of the United States were engaged.  But in the event of a death, that blue star is replaced with a gold variant — the highest honor. The term Gold Star Family is a modern reference that comes from the Service Flag (as seen below).

Whenever we see someone displaying a gold star flag or similar emblem, it’s wholly appropriate to acknowledge their loss by saying something as simple, but powerful, as “I’m sorry for your loss—thank you for your sacrifice.”  It’s also important to remember that although we focus on Memorial Day once a year, Gold Star Families focus on their loss 365 days a year.  That’s why our acknowledgement of their loss and sacrifice is so important.

This Memorial Day, in addition to honoring those who died serving our country, let us also honor those Gold Star Families who continue to grieve the loss of their loved ones who paid the ultimate sacrifice so we can be free.  Wishing you and yours a memorable and meaningful Memorial Day weekend!